Introduction to gestational surrogacy
For many individuals and couples in the UK, gestational surrogacy offers a beautiful and life-changing path to parenthood.
Whether due to medical challenges, infertility, or being part of a same-sex male couple, surrogacy provides the chance to have a biological child with the help of a compassionate gestational carrier.
In this guide, we’ll walk you through the gestational surrogacy process, how it differs from other types of surrogacy, what the laws say in the UK, and what to expect emotionally, legally, and financially along the way.
What Is Gestational Surrogacy?
Gestational surrogacy is a process where a surrogate carries a pregnancy created through IVF (in vitro fertilisation) using an embryo that does not contain her own eggs.
Instead, the eggs and sperm come from the intended parents or donors.
This means the surrogate has no genetic connection to the baby she carries.
This approach is now the most common type of surrogacy worldwide — including for many UK families, because it offers clear biological connections and ethical boundaries for all involved.
Intended parents choose gestational surrogacy for various reasons, including:
Medical conditions preventing a safe pregnancy
Recurrent miscarriage or uterine factor infertility
Same-sex male couples wishing to have a biological child
Single intended parents
The Gestational Surrogacy Process — Step by Step
Step 1: Initial Consultation and Screening
The journey begins with medical and psychological evaluations for both the surrogate and intended parents.
Clinics assess fertility health, medical history, and emotional readiness.
In the UK, surrogacy organisations like Brilliant Beginnings or Surrogacy UK also help match intended parents and surrogates and offer counselling to ensure both sides understand expectations.
Step 2: Creating Embryos (IVF Process)
Next comes IVF treatment. Eggs are retrieved from the intended mother or an egg donor, then fertilised with sperm from the intended father or a donor.
The embryos are cultured and tested (if desired), and one or more high-quality embryos are selected for transfer.
Step 3: Embryo Transfer and Pregnancy
The chosen embryo is transferred into the gestational carrier’s uterus.
Once a positive pregnancy test is confirmed, she begins prenatal care, often supported by the fertility clinic and later by her own obstetric team.
Throughout pregnancy, communication between the surrogate and intended parents is encouraged and often guided by the surrogacy agency or counsellor.
Step 4: Birth and Legal Parentage
Here lies one of the key distinctions in the gestational surrogacy process in the UK: under UK law, the woman who gives birth is the baby’s legal mother at birth, regardless of genetics.
If she is married, her spouse may also be the second legal parent.
Intended parents must therefore apply for a Parental Order after the birth to become the child’s legal parents.
The court verifies that all legal requirements are met and that the surrogate freely consents to the arrangement after birth.
Because of these complexities, many UK families also explore international surrogacy in destinations where legal parentage is pre-established, such as Georgia, the USA, or Cyprus.
Still, legal advice is always essential before doing so.
Legal Aspects of Gestational Surrogacy in the UK
Surrogacy is legal in the UK, but commercial surrogacy (where the surrogate is paid beyond reasonable expenses) is not permitted.
This means arrangements must be altruistic, though the surrogate can receive reimbursement for medical, travel, or loss of earnings.
Importantly, surrogacy agreements are not legally enforceable in UK courts.
The foundation of any arrangement must therefore be trust, transparency, and mutual understanding.
After the birth, a Parental Order transfers parenthood from the surrogate (and her spouse, if applicable) to the intended parents.
This process can take several months, during which intended parents usually care for the baby from day one.
Emotional, Ethical, and Medical Considerations
Gestational surrogacy is a journey built on empathy and trust. The emotional connection between surrogate and intended parents often becomes a lifelong bond.
Still, it’s essential that everyone involved receives psychological counselling and ongoing support throughout the process.
From a medical standpoint, the surrogate faces the same risks as any pregnancy, such as gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia, or delivery complications.
These risks are managed through careful screening and medical monitoring.
Ethically, the UK’s emphasis on altruistic surrogacy aims to protect everyone involved, ensuring that motivations are caring, not commercial.
Costs and Timeline — UK and Abroad
In the UK, since surrogates can only be reimbursed for reasonable expenses, total costs are often lower than in countries where commercial surrogacy is legal.
Typical expenses may range from £20,000 to £40,000, depending on IVF cycles, legal support, and surrogate compensation.
However, many UK families who pursue surrogacy abroad (in regulated destinations such as Georgia, Cyprus, or Armenia) may face higher costs, often £60,000 to £120,000, but benefit from more structured legal frameworks and faster timelines.
A complete gestational surrogacy process usually takes 12 to 18 months, though international arrangements may vary depending on medical, visa, and legal timelines.
Tips for Intended Parents in the UK
Work with reputable UK organisations like Gaia Fertility, COTS, Surrogacy UK, or Brilliant Beginnings that offer matching and support.
Seek specialised legal advice early to understand Parental Orders, citizenship, and international implications.
Build emotional support — counselling helps both surrogate and intended parents navigate expectations and attachment.
Be patient and transparent. The surrogacy journey is deeply emotional, but honesty and communication make it smoother for everyone.
Conclusion
Gestational surrogacy offers hope, compassion, and new beginnings for families across the UK.
While the gestational surrogacy process involves emotional, medical, and legal complexity, it remains one of the most fulfilling journeys toward building a family.
With professional support, legal clarity, and genuine empathy between all parties, surrogacy can be a life-changing experience, one rooted in love, trust, and the shared dream of parenthood.